Man, this thread awoke from a long slumber...what's up with that?
Paulie...Paulie...Paulie...oy
Let's make this a general purpose thread. That's one of the absolute hardest things to accept in life. And it goes both ways (I'm being serious) - some have done it to you and, conversely, you inevitably have done it to someone else: a guy or girl who was nuts over you and you were just "eh" on them - let's be friends. Don't tell me you haven't done that? In the past, it was done to me more. Now, as I have become more cautious and self-sufficient, I tend to be the one that does the rejecting. I don't like being put in that role but I've not given off any signals other than being approachable or polite that warrant any more than that.
Another thing - and I have to give you shit: is it the NY or the Italian or both that make you spew this unbridled neurotic passion? Good God. Take a chill pill. Have you ever looked back and saw that someone you were nuts about was probably "just ok" in perspective several years later? I am SURE that's happened to you and don't deny it. I've done that - what did I see 5 years ago?
I went to a high school reunion because I found out that a girl I was nuts about from 17 through 20 or 21 was available (very sad circumstances that made her available). Knowing her penchant for this kind of event, I knew she'd be there. She was. Because I had changed A LOT she didn't recognize me and came up to me at the bar and introduced herself! I thought - is this a turning of the tables from when I was a short squirt of a junior and senior at my little Catholic high school? I told her who I was. She was a little perplexed but, since we were among the few unpaired people there, she sits at my table for dinner. To make a long story short, she became DISinterested over the ensuing months because she had "boxed" me in as who I was at 17 or 18. The reality was that, in addition to changing physically, I became much more worldly and self-confident. She couldn't get there. In reality, she had declined in "quality" - no she didn't put on weight or anything. She just wasn't that great of a package and I was able to see a lot of her personal issues (many) that you would gloss over as a kid because a person looks a certain way and that's all that matters.
You're not a kid anymore. You've done enough living to where you should take on the attitude "if they don't like me, then so what." It's a great place to be. It took a while for me to get there. It may for you as well.
Be cool. Va bene?