First of all I need to know
A. How much information do you have about her? And how close you are with her. I mean do you just know her name? or you know more than that. How long have you known her. More important how much of a comfortable conversations did have with her?
B. You need to find more about "him." And how she is when she is with him. The second part is more important. It is important to know how he makes her feel.
C. I want to know what will you do without her. Tell me the extremes of your reactions.
Based on what you have provided in your posts, Z-28, let us look at your options and see how we can strategize your solution.
1. Tell the person how you feel anyway
2. Wait for the relationship to falter, then swoop in
3. Move on and start looking for someone else
4. Screw true love. Stick to your hobbies
5. Other
2, and 3 are not good choices. For the reason, you are predetermining your results, for # two is hyperbolically optimistic, while 3 is pessimistic. 4. Screw True Love, it is the pure form of abstinence and you are altruistic enough to resist your emotional wants. Not a bad choice, that is why I asked you the C. #5 Other, you can find somebody, who can fit her model in your mind and see if you feel the chemistry. Now, let us turn into choice 1. For first, no game is over till, the final whistle is blown. In same analogy, no girl is not yours till you or her is dead. I know it sounds selfish, but, isn't you wanting her selfishness? Choice number one can lead to 2 or 3. For one, if she does not really love him, it will put a tinker of doubt to accelerate that thought and hence choice 2 will be materialize. Or if she does, you move on. It can also, lead to a stronger statement of #4 and you will really be an altruist and get yourself a Camaro Z28. :AH-HA_wink:
My answer will be 1. Target and get it over with one way or other and move on. It gives your life more flexibility, rather than linger and be dead in thoughts.