Every Friday, a group of us at work head out for lunch at a nearby steakhouse. Recently, a new Chili's has opened near our work, and we had talked about trying it.
Last Friday, as we walked out to the parking lot to head out ("my" guy Ryan and another friend), we discussed where we would go. The other friend and I wanted to go to Chili's, Ryan didn't want to, but he reluctantly agreed we would meet at Chili's, along with two other coworkers. I told Ryan I had to go to the bank, but would meet them at Chili's and I took off in my truck while they waited for the other 2 guys.
I got to Chili's and waited a couple short minutes before getting a table. The server put 4 more menus on the table and I ordered my iced tea while I waited for the crew. To no avail. I finally ordered my lunch.
I ended up eating my lunch with 4 menus. I got back to work before them, and when Ryan walked in, he said "where did you go? Chili's?"
I said "where the fu*k do you think I went? I had lunch with 4 menus."
He said "I tried to call you here at work but you had already left! 'They' didn't want to go to Chili's."
That was a lie. It was Ryan who didn't want to go to Chili's before agreeing to go there.
I didn't talk to him any more on Friday afternoon, and not until almost noon yesterday. I asked him what he thought he was doing when he took the guys to the other place. He apologized.
Since then, I've barely said two words to him. I am still pissed and ready to tell him to fu*k off, that I am permanently out of the lunch group, that he can go fly a goddamned kite for all I care, but I haven't, I've just been silent. He looks at me with puppydog eyes and then looks at the floor when I walk by his work area in the shop. He has tried to talk a few times, but I've been keeping it as short as possible until I walk away.
It's not the lunch venue I am pissed about... it's the ditching I cannot get over.
How would you guys feel if this happened to you? Should I chuck 3 years of friendship, or am I overreacting?