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Nick buddy, it'll come around. Sometimes the girls you like or are hot for you may not be the ones who are outgoing or the 'popular' types we are all told are the ones to be with in high school. once you get out of that crappy high school bullshit for awhile and don't have to be exposed to all that stuff, people become more themselves and I think you'll find that in the near future, somebody who's good for you, you will meet. Its a matter of getting out there and approaching them and talking to them and getting to know them and making them feel special, unique and very good about themselves. In theory, they reciprocate all that right back to you. You may find a very shy girl who blossoms from being your friend and she will turn into this amazing person right before your eyes because you will think of her like no one has thought of her before. Unfortunately our highschool environments breed an atmosphere that only rewards jocks, cheerleaders, and outgoing pretty people. The rest of us suffer through that time and have to wait to enjoy our social lives when we get a little older.

well, first off, you've got enough proof in your writeup there to verify how offkilter those arch. chicks can be as a stereotype. On the next, more personal level though, if any woman, any PERSON, erects rules as rigid and closed minded as 'not gonna date anyone in studio' let me simply say that is just a fraction of the iceberg in terms of what sort of chick hangups she has in the skeleton closet. We're looking at someone who overanalyzes things with their head and doesn't gravitate to the heart's feelings. It also shows you a level of selfishness and how much she'll prioritize the need to satisfy self at the expense of leaving an open mind to follow exploring a new love interest. i.e. this is someone who has put up limits and is knowingly attemtping to curtail the chance of anything good happeing from a love interest standpoint. We can't pick and choose where our suitors come from and trying to control that seldom works. Attemtping to sacrifice too much personal happiness for scholarly happiness to me suggests someone who can't handle both facets of their life elegantly. I've known of far too many women who cannot handle both work/school and personal lives and usually the brunt of failure gets diverted onto the male at some point. I might be being overly blunt and simple here, but unless there's a special magic in her that transcends her self imposed limits, then I would at least knock her down the priority list......(of course if she's cuter than all get up and has an awesome rack and ass, well, i could see being drawn to that!) What this means is bump up the efforts with friends, dormmates, etc. I KNOW its tough, trust me. I worked at a job mostly full time while going through the program (arch.) and I sacrificed a lot in terms of time in studio vs other things. My grades went down some, but not that much. Your social interaction is what fuels your desire and interest in everything else. Everyday I review in my mind opportunities I missed in school in various things because I spent far too much time on 'projects'. Learn how to crank out the projects in half the time. I worked more form home and had more productive time the last few years. i still was up in studio enough to get in on the life up there too. Thing is, studio is a monoculture of liberal types, green types, art types, engineer types, 'thinkers' and philosophers.......4-6 years of that takes you out of normal mainstream thought of the mainstream and the rest of the college group. you become a sad granola eating nerd like the rest of them! At times, I lament not having more good times with my studio friends, but all in all, in the end, 80-90% of the time I considered them as coworkers and I would always have chosen to be around my friends more often, if given the choice. In a complete whole life, you'll remember your friends a lot more than your co-workers. That's not to discount that you won't find a super hottie in the studio, I'm just saying again, force yourself to branch out more NOW. Don't wait for college to end. It gets busier once you start working and you meet far fewer people. Why not sample the ladies menu now when you are in the ultimate women buffet (COLLEGE)? Balance your studio and social life, but don't waste your prime years in college by not getting out and seeking friends while they are so accessible. People put up barriers as the years go on. the experiences you will share with your college friends are the most intense and open shared times and will last you forever. You can sacrifice the A- or B+ grade for B's and B-'s across the board if it means an extra 15-20 hours a week time for you to develop friends and love interests socially in dorms, academic clubs and org's, bar hopping, parties, intrmurals, and road trips. Part time jobs are a great way to meet others too. In my college they kicked the architects into some old farm quonsets. Now I guess they have them in an old remote building that they were gonna knock over, but somebody gave a bunch of dough to renovate, so now the architects and stuff are like 3 miles from the rest of the campus! How is anyone supposed to get a rounded education being segregated like that? Again, if a woman has rules NOW, when she is in the free-est environment she will ever be in, how many RULES will she have later in life, for herself and her hubby? Sample the ladies outside your studio and then report back with your findings. I bet generally you'll have more fun with women outside arch. Psych majors are a trip. those chicks are crazy. Buisness majors are a hoot too. You'll meet plenty of architecture women once you begin working, if you don't meet other chicks in school anyways. My advice, to all....weddings....CRASHER or not. I met my wife at a wedding, so did our best friends. Wedding stories, hey that should be a separate topic! Someone ought to start it up!

its hard to commit your one car payment to something that's not a good freeway car, even if you don't venture out of the gridlock that much.

so long as he didn't get a side impact hit from a suburban at 40 mph.......

anyone wanting rear leg room will immediately flock to this car compared to a Cobalt or Ion. GM fked themselves royally by not putting any rear seat room in those two cars.

well, an aztek like mine equipped without too many goodies gets good mpg and holds like 90 c.ft of stuff and can be bought under GMEP for like 16 grand. base Ford Freestars and SWB Caravans can be had in the 16-17 range. The Freestar's mileage might be less than desired. The Element is a good choice, but can get pricey. A focus wagon holds an assload of stuff assuming you buy a cheaper version. Vans still are the most useful although the often lack AWD. most minivans will get 20 mpg. The Element doesn't really get much more than that.

los angeles, who's the babe? she wears a dress nicely.

i love this. this is like saying 'f-you' to toyota's face.

well, for starters, be patient for a bit more, it'll come around. lots of opportunities arise from simply haging out with a lot of people and meeting their friends and going to parties etc. Sometimes you don't hit that stuff that hard until after 18.... realize too that a lot about trying to get a mate is emotionally stroking them......and that's the tough part.

ok, now i'm freaked out, or I'm LOL>........ nope, men do NOTHING for me, sorry mr. hairy palm.......

stang buddy, your first mistake (aside from architecture as a career) is to attempt to date a woman in architecture. Females and architecture are a deadly mix. The women in architecture are often messed up and unstable, and just out of whack. I still remember my crush on Michelle in my first high school drafting class back in '84. She had an Ally Sheedy kind of cuteness (MAN OH MAN that DATES ME) and an aloofness I couldn't stay away from. Well, what saved me was, yes she had a boyfriend. Over time I found out how f'ed up she was. That still doesn't keep me from remembering my favorite fantasy about her, being with her in her bedroom in her parent's house, getting down with T-squares and 'french curves'. Oh, I loved her SOOOO much, and she was just a FREAK. She had a bit of a moustache, which I dig a hint of on chicks (but that's another story). Just that slightest bit of facial hair above the lip and MMMMMMMMMMMM, its Christmas! On to college. I would say in my college there was about 40-60 women in our program and maybe about 15-20% were women. In my year, I cannot think of ONE that didn't have some big issue. And that's not just me talking. No doubt there's a few that are normal, and fun, and behave normally towards men, but.... Where I work we recently hired a drafter from another firm in town, a firm that employs someone I used to go to college with. I asked new dude if he knew 'Laurie'. He said yeah, but that she's really like 'anti-men' and stuff and just very moody in a wierd sort of way in general. Hehe, I said 'no surprise there'. This was a chick who was very cute and many of the buddies of mine wanted to get with her. And she had her 'group' of other women and seemingly gay men that she would converse with and she would converse in acadmeic settings. But she never seemingly had dates, much less a boyfriend all those years. Now, I never heard whether she was a lesbian, but if she was, 15-20 years later, i WOULD have heard about it by now. Pretty much every other women in architecture is 'beyond the mainstream'. Proceeed with serious caution. You just don't get the same types of women in architecture that exist in normal society. They all have head issues to a degree and they are not always the hottest ones out there either. Disclaimer, my last job I got to know someone/woman who was at the same college as I went to, just a year apart. We hit it off great and are still super friends, we even talked about going into business together. And she's hot. But I even admit, there's still enough about her that would make me ever question my compatibility with her in any setting, although I sure wish I had known her this well in college. Yeah, baby! If you must co-hab with someone who knows the difference between plans and sections, try interior designers. THEY have social skills, often dress more killer, and are fun to boot. And they don't have all the head cases. Still, in the scheme of things, maybe its best to avoid them too if you want to share something in life besides the ability to read drawings and talk design. Its interesting, so many architects get married to each other. Why? because architects are typically such insane personalities and hard to deal with, they like to share the pain and become an exponenetially worse as a couple. You will find many I.D./architect couples, but there is a ton of architects that shack up together, cause they are sometimes repellant individually to others and no one else wants to be with someone so offbeat. disclaimer again, not ALL of them are like that, but many. I married a music major. Its a nice mix. My buddy married a pharmacist. Now she works and he stays home with the kids, cause he was making like half of what she made. Stang, I can tell you're not one of the 'head cases' in your architecture classes. You're a real guy, a good normal, hard working, fun loving guy like the rest of us. My advice, spend more time occasionally outside the studio and start hanging out with as many different girls in other majors you can, as often as you can. You'll find happier girls, and often they will be more interesting and more friendly. And I know this is shallow, but they'll likely be on track to make some nice coin too. Don't like abandon your group of friends in studio, but if you're needing to find some ladies, just diversify. Maybe you already have. I know I'm stereotyping, but often stereotypes are for a reason. BUt I apologize anyways. I've rarely known a woman in my field who isn't 'off the beaten path'. Again, Paulie, sorry if this is off topic, just need to set stangman aside and throw 5 cents worth of advice in his ear.

and some of us who aren't gay maybe are effeminate. Or just not rifle totin, raw meat eatin, hunt it yourself, women slappin, strappin he men. But i gotta tell ya, I do enjoy a nice strappin woman. strong and stout. I just don't get into smoky burnouts.

mute, that's a hot 'not lady'

it looks more fetching in person than pics.

man i want a force fed solstice coupe. hopefully with a bit of a trunk.

wow. i just soiled my boxers. in a good way.

"Legroom shrinks by almost an inch in back" not sure why it was so tough to stretch the wheelbase a couple inches, raise the roof and inch or two, and contour the seats for a nice passenger pocket, all in the interest of getting any leg room in the back. just an example of continual 'half assing' it.

yes, its FWD but it serves a niche and it seems to be a very good car. I think it looks good. Mits of late have been super reliable too. Once it gets noticed, it should sell well.

scary resemblence. further proof that the ricers, all they know how to do is copy. the hyundai has 2 gauges and the toyo has 3!

agreed. i saw this thing on the lot a couple weeks ago and its a very sharp looking ride. lots of value. well built (to the eye). I want a 5 speed and i think that means RWD only, so no go. Plus, no sunroof unless you go AWD I think. If I could get the 5 speed with AWD it would be worth looking at. Off roaders ought to know that this AWD system is kind of rugged for this class.

this is a brief humor break not really on topic here but perhaps some can identify with. This is like on the funniest onion stories of all time. I kind of sheds light on how one person can be caught up in another but the other is being cruel. or psycho. http://www.theonion.com/content/node/29357

if he can't wait two more weeks, then he can give up his place and let osmeone else have the car.

Don't let the friends bit go too long before you start to let them know how you really feel. If you wait too long, its much tougher.

FAR TOO MANY OF THOSE SITUATIONS FOR ME. ultimately, 'it' happens or it doesn't. I'm not sure if a relationship is missing a 'spark' early on, if it ever follows through. nothing sucks more in life when you are so desiring someone else, that its hard to breathe when that person is in your presence, but ultimately they cannot profess the same affection. its a shame we couldn't sit and have a few beers and discuss it. Sounds like you need some encouragement. if i started typing everything i'd love to share with you or cheer you up with, i think i'd have enough stories to last all week. I might just depress you all to heck too. i suppose i could be brief about it, and limit it to like 2 or 3. One gal I worked with one summer on an overnight retail job, we were good friends, 'buds' at work and then a funny thing happened at the end of that summer. She asked for my number and stuff when i went back to school for the fall (she went to a different school). I would start to visit her on trips back home, which subsequently led to spontaneous making out. Friends. HMMMMM. Well, the inevitable. The next summer she got an intership in a bigger city and me, the fool I am, decided I needed to drive down and see her like 5 times that summer, and go on legitimate dates. Well, it was a HOT summer, although it got to the point where on my 21st birthday no less, before she took me out to celebrate, i told her what i thought of her and got the 'i thought we were friends bit' in return. WHOA. whoa. After that, i blew her off for awhile, then got 'I need you in my life' letters like weeks after that. Finally, when i went to visit her again at her beck and call to see what the f was going to happen, here's Mr. motorcycle dude, she just had started dating with half the parts of his bike sprawled out all over the apartment floor. Well, all this, point being, sometimes the other person is either afraid to go and admit how much they like someone or they like and maybe love you, but have big doubts for some reason, or feel that its just not a burning, fireworks kind of thing. In this case, she could not allow herself the notion that I could be the one that was making her crazy. Was i not tall enough? Not smart enough? Different in some fundamental way? Man, the way i felt and the way I thought she felt, hearing the 'friends' bit was like a freight train, or a knife gouging deep into your stomach. Well that's just one of them. Enough for now. I was reflecting on all of this recently, how when you're young and single, you meet so many suitors, so many people that you are attracted to, and all the joy and yes, hassle and heartache that goes with trying to meet and find the right person to be with. I hold grudges, so all these chicks who screwed me in the past, even though I still hold lots of anger and hurt towards a few of them.....there is always those things about each one of them that i remember that makes me hurt from missing them. Odd, now that i am married and am totally in love with my wife, how sometimes you have those feelings for old 'loves', friends, whatever. But you do...always will. I guess my point is, it will work out somehow. I believe in destiny and things happening for a reason, out of our control. Fate. One night, unexpectedly, i met my wife, and things were forever changed for me. The thing was I KNEW she felt the same way from the get go. Sparks for sure. I would say that either the person you want may indeed want to be a friend, or perhaps they are shy and don't know how they feel and things may take patience and time. Enjoy the time, wear your heart on your sleeve, take your chances. At least let the person in somehow on how you might feel about them. You may not get the chance again, and if it doesn't work out, just remember that maybe it was just a step to a greater relationship in your life in the future. Make the most of it now and put yourself on the line, otherwise you'll never know for sure and that will kill you more forever than stewing about some bike parts on her (his) apartment floor. ps. the chick even had the nerve to send me a wedding photo from her wedding on a cruise ship. like i cared..... ok, so i did. I wish I hadn't destroyed all her letters and her photos. Yeah, and she wasn't the only one with the 'haha I'm getting married and not to YOU' letter......at least it wasn't in EMAIL form.