jcgable

Brilliant!

Ooooh, get the 9-3 Aero vertible. Seriously, you wont regret it.

There are 3 models (in the theory). The idea is based in comparison to the only other model that can be compared-heterosexual relationships. Within those heterosexual relationships, the chief differentiation between two individuals is gender. In gay relationships, that natural difference doesn't exist. Therefore other differences are used. First is one based on masculinity and femininity. One member of the relationship will take up masculine roles while the other has more feminine traits. The second is based on age differences. A lot of time you will see one gay man who is in their 40's with another in their 20's. The 40 year old brings experience and stability into the relationship, while the 20 year old brings youth, charisma, and energy. The third is actually a bit different. In this model, a twinning effect is seen. You'll often see two men from the same socioeconomic background, ethnic background, age, etc. together. They seem to throw out the entire concept of differentiation out in exchange for similarities. And there you have it, is the secret... not really...

Ask me about the 3 models for successful gay relationships book my psychologist friend gave to me sometime. Here's a hint, all three are listed in your post and are really fascinating. :-) As it turns out, 90% of long term gay relationships have one of these three features and is shockingly logical.

(1) Yes-I hope (2) No (3) Yes (4) Yes

I'd top that boy in a second... Kidding. The video, while funny, is a little bit disturbing...

Brilliant!

THEY-ARE-NOT-WELCOME. THEY-WILL-BE-ASSIMILATED. Kidding. :AH-HA_wink:

You are onto it! There are certain genetic predictors (THEORETICALLY) that actually show which people are compatible to whom. This stems from the idea that certain personality traits are learned, while other are inherent. These inherent traits are expressed in the pheromones we release and thus create that instant sense of attraction. Now some aspects of the theory are more solid than others, but it is some pretty frickin cool stuff. FYI, ones attraction HAS been proven to increase once person B finds out person A is attracted to them. Think of that insane jolt of excitement you get when someone you like likes you back, or when you find yourself considering romantic feelings with someone you never thought about when you find out he/she has feelings for you. God I love psych!

Unfortunately, there are very few studies regarding sexual orientation for a number of reasons. By and large, the psychological community is very open to examining sexuality. It is considered one of the final frontiers of evolutionary psychology because it ties in the relationships between all 3 evolved phases of the human brain (the reptilian-basic functions such as breathing, hunger, fight or flight, etc., the mammalian-maternal instinct, caretaking, community living, etc., and the emotional center-love, emotional attachment, and all non-instinctual urges and feelings). The issue, however, is there is very little funding to support any kind of psychological examination of sexuality for two reasons: The first is a lack of funding because it is still very much a taboo topic for many individuals, the second being that a lot of Gay advocacy groups oppose the idea of any studies because they feel it makes homosexuality appear as a disease. What these groups don't understand is that homosexuality has been off of the list of diagnosable ailments for well over 35 years. From what I understand however, is that your external senses (such as smell, sight, hearing, etc.) do not affect your sexuality... theoretically. If sexuality was determined by sight, then there (THEORETICALLY) would be no blind gay people, which there are.

This has NOT been an easy month for you has it dear? I am so sorry.

This entire thread is a psych major's WET DREAM. I'm loving every bit of it. keep going kids.

Sense and Sensibility

Something to consider: True love isn't hard to find THESE DAYS. It has always been hard, and will in all likelihood always be hard. I personally don't believe in "true love". Psychology (yes I'm a neurotic psychologist in training :AH-HA_wink: ) has shown that love and mutual attachment is largely based on relative factors. For instance, shaver's theory on love shows that people generally attach themselves to those that are in a close proximity to them (a factor in why long distance is harder to work out). The bottom line is that you can and will fall in love several times over the course of your lifetime, and that the path you choose to take your life is what will ultimately decide whether or not is is true love. The point I'm trying to make is that love is organic. Whats more important than the actual attachment is the feasibility of the partnership you are building. If you see qualities in him that could make him the kind of partner that you'll need through the good times and the bad, then love will typically come right along with it. If you don't see that in him, then it isn't really too deep of a loss. You can and will find someone who can meet your emotional needs, it's just a question of when. Just make sure that when you embark on this grand experiment with him,, that you are watching the little things and the big things-both are very important in building something that will last. Dissertation over. -J

Just when I thought Subaru's design language couldn't get worse lol... :-D

The primary thing to worry about is how your styles of living work together. It is one thing to simply spend a weekend together, but it is a whole different matter to build an entire lifestyle together. People have different habits, pet peeves, routines, etc. that don't always work together-regardless of how much chemistry there is. I would honestly consider having him spend a 1-2 week period with you just to be sure that you two are comfortable in the situation. If things go well after two weeks, then that bodes really well. If not, then you two can pull back, evaluate the situation, date further and slowly move back into the position of him moving in. Just remember, when you live with someone there are certain concessions you should make and other ones that you shouldn't. Only you know where that line is-but it would be wise for you to consider what things you are willing to give up, and what things you aren't. That will help you to determine how living with him will work! -J

Some people just don't get it. Weather patterns are designed to fluctuate and balance over time. The fact that weather had this drastic of a correction in a one year period is alarming. I agree that global warming is made out to be much more imminent than it probably is, but the bottom line is that since the industrial revolution, the trendlines for climate has been completely insane.

Awwww, I feel all fuzzy...

Drank. Heavily. Whats interesting is that I am not much of a drinker at all. I have consumed more alcohol this week than I have in the last 6 months. My liver is threatening secession (I do have southern blood in my veins!).

Hmmm, I love over sexualized ay cowboy bears... Hmmmmm delcious! Thanks! :-D Oh, and thank you everyone for the birthday wishes! 21 baby!

Meh, I'm not usually into that, but hell-I'll try anything once!

How many licks does it take to to get to the center of a tootsie pop?

There are times I forget that I'm from Tucson and therefore a spoiled brat when it comes to weather. Whoops.

With their recent exterior design luck, I wouldn't be surprised if that was the final design. I can see the Press release now: Nissan uses exotic gift-wrapping technique as inspiration for new design language.