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We've all read O. C.'s "So my boyfriend is moving in ..." thread

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I'm sure you all have read O. C.'s thread "So my boyfriend is moving in ..." many of you gave great insight to his plight.

So my question is this, How many of you that have committed to another person, has ever cheated on that person? By cheating I mean had sexual relations, with another person, that wasn't the one you committed to? If you have, did you own up to it, or will you take that secret to the grave?

I will say this for me, before I got married, I was the biggest male whore on the planet, after I got married I have not cheated "done the dirty deed as it were with someone other than my wife", doesn't mean I have not thought about it, talk about it, or even dreamed about it, I just have not crossed that line.

I don't know how many will answer this, but O.C's thread got me thinking about it. :AH-HA_wink:

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I'm sure you all have read O. C.'s thread "So my boyfriend is moving in ..." many of you gave great insight to his plight.

So my question is this, How many of you that have committed to another person, has ever cheated on that person? By cheating I mean had sexual relations, with another person, that wasn't the one you committed to? If you have, did you own up to it, or will you take that secret to the grave?

I will say this for me, before I got married, I was the biggest male whore on the planet, after I got married I have not cheated "done the dirty deed as it were with someone other than my wife", doesn't mean I have not thought about it, talk about it, or even dreamed about it, I just have not crossed that line.

I don't know how many will answer this, but O.C's thread got me thinking about it. :AH-HA_wink:

Never did it either......even in my last relationship, when all the intimacy and sex went away......I still remained faithful.

That's why I have an extensive collection of porn......keeps me "out of trouble!" LOL

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If you have, did you own up to it, or will you take that secret to the grave?

Just thought I'd point out the irony of posting on the Internet that you have a dirty little secret that you're taking to the grave.

And, no, I'm clean :D

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I admit to cheating on my left hand with a man. But that's it. I've never cheated on anyone I've dated. I would never cheat on someone. Honestly, if it comes down to cheating with someone, then I'm going to break up with the person first.

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I cheated on your mom with your sister.

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Do open relationships count?

and when I mean open, I mean honest communication happens and fun outside of the relationship is both condoned and encouraged.

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Never have, but not sure that Wife would like the fact that I look at a nekkid female on the interweb from time to time.

Actually not even a big fan of porn per se, but like the occasional "artistic nude female form", esp. if it is black and white.

But that is as far as it goes, I really don't even fantazize about sleeping with other women than Kim.

Chris

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...and no Oldsmoboi, an open relationship does not count.

Chris

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...and last thought here for a minute, since perhaps sex is more available to gay men is it perhaps tougher to remain "faithful" if your gay? Not meaning to offend anyone with this, but it would seem that temptation would be more "available"

Chris

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Nope, ive always been a good boy..I've been with my G/F for 17 months now, and ive had more then one girl try to tempt me (not until im in a relationship do random girls want me :P ) but i care WAY too much about Victoria to be unfaithful.... i have no reason to cheat

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...and last thought here for a minute, since perhaps sex is more available to gay men is it perhaps tougher to remain "faithful" if your gay? Not meaning to offend anyone with this, but it would seem that temptation would be more "available"

Chris

I wouldn't say there's more temptation... it's just that men are assholes. Plain and simple. Myself included. But for the faithful thing, God, I'd be destroyed and I can't even imagine that feeling if a guy cheated on me.

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Do open relationships count?

and when I mean open, I mean honest communication happens and fun outside of the relationship is both condoned and encouraged.

No offense......but I totally do NOT believe in any sort of "open relationship."

To me, the words lead to an oxymoron. If it's "open"....it's really not a relationship. It's more of a "f@#k-buddy" friendship than anything else.

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I stick to the terms of agreement. Always have. Always will. :smilewide:

So no, I haven't cheated on anyone.

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I cheated on your mom with your sister.

:rotflmao:

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This is a can of worms that would be best left closed. But that would be so unlike me! :smilewide:

Here is the world, according to Carbiz:

1) Alcohol (and other substances) were invented so ugly people can get laid, too. Not original, but true.

2) A 'relationship' doesn't even start until about year 4. Before that, you are still getting to know each other. There could possibly be positions not tried yet.

3) Those who claim sex does not matter are either a) lying b) ugly or c) don't really know what sex is.

4) Monogamy is highly over-rated. We are supposed to be dead by 30. That is in our genes. To presume someone you met at 20 will be with you by 50 is naive at best.

5) The majority of people who claim they have never cheated are either a)lying b) couldn't find someone willing to cheat with them or c) don't have the time.

6) Want to be happy for the rest of your life, then make an ugly man/woman (or man-woman) your wife.

The gay world is littered with the wreckage of bitter souls who sought refuge in a 'meaningful' relationship, only to discover that they don't really exist. I have never understood why gay people collectively have fought for right to be recognized as the same as straight people. We are not, nor should we aspire to be. The divorce rate is sitting at 55% for a myriad of reasons, but I will wager that almost none of those relationships had decent sex going on inside of them. Marriage as an institution is morally bankrupt; a quaint idea which has roots 10,000 years old - as if things haven't changed since then. If we are to move forward through the 21st century, we are going to have to find a way to make relationships (plural) fit into our busy lives, or die alone. It is estimated that we will have 6 careers during our life - why would we expect anything different for our sex lives?

Now before I get flamed for my above comments, think long and hard. This is far more than gonads and harmones. However, we deny our inner animal at our own peril. Of course it is more difficult for gay relationships to work - the temptations are everywhere! When is the last time an attractive woman lured a man into a public washroom and gave him a BJ? And before the straight folk get on their high horses and wrinkle their noses at how repugnant that would be - how many straight guys, married or not, would not be tempted by said situation? Oh, that's right: the double edged sword that she would have to be a slut to be willing to do that, and therefore undesireable. Vegas would not exist if I am not right.

As a society, we need to wake up about sex, celebrate it and learn to fold it into our lives. Throwing hissy fits or going into fits of depression because the BF/GF/wife or whatever didn't come home or smells of someone else's cologne/perfume, etc. is not going to get us anywhere. Whether one has an 'open relationship,' 'don't-ask-don't-tell-Fridays,' engage in threesomes, wife swapping, key parties, or whatever else may float one's boat, the secret to happiness is to find what works for YOU and stick with it.

Oh, and get to the damned gym: stop whining because the wife got fat and dumpy. Take a look in the mirror.

:ph34r:

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:word:

My favorite line though... So true...

The gay world is littered with the wreckage of bitter souls who sought refuge in a 'meaningful' relationship, only to discover that they don't really exist.
Then there's this one:

the secret to happiness is to find what works for YOU and stick with it.

QFT :thumbsup:

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It would not occur to me to cheat, and I'd expect the same out of a partner.
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This is a can of worms that would be best left closed. But that would be so unlike me! :smilewide:

Here is the world, according to Carbiz:

1) Alcohol (and other substances) were invented so ugly people can get laid, too. Not original, but true.

2) A 'relationship' doesn't even start until about year 4. Before that, you are still getting to know each other. There could possibly be positions not tried yet.

3) Those who claim sex does not matter are either a) lying b) ugly or c) don't really know what sex is.

4) Monogamy is highly over-rated. We are supposed to be dead by 30. That is in our genes. To presume someone you met at 20 will be with you by 50 is naive at best.

5) The majority of people who claim they have never cheated are either a)lying b) couldn't find someone willing to cheat with them or c) don't have the time.

6) Want to be happy for the rest of your life, then make an ugly man/woman (or man-woman) your wife.

The gay world is littered with the wreckage of bitter souls who sought refuge in a 'meaningful' relationship, only to discover that they don't really exist. I have never understood why gay people collectively have fought for right to be recognized as the same as straight people. We are not, nor should we aspire to be. The divorce rate is sitting at 55% for a myriad of reasons, but I will wager that almost none of those relationships had decent sex going on inside of them. Marriage as an institution is morally bankrupt; a quaint idea which has roots 10,000 years old - as if things haven't changed since then. If we are to move forward through the 21st century, we are going to have to find a way to make relationships (plural) fit into our busy lives, or die alone. It is estimated that we will have 6 careers during our life - why would we expect anything different for our sex lives?

Now before I get flamed for my above comments, think long and hard. This is far more than gonads and harmones. However, we deny our inner animal at our own peril. Of course it is more difficult for gay relationships to work - the temptations are everywhere! When is the last time an attractive woman lured a man into a public washroom and gave him a BJ? And before the straight folk get on their high horses and wrinkle their noses at how repugnant that would be - how many straight guys, married or not, would not be tempted by said situation? Oh, that's right: the double edged sword that she would have to be a slut to be willing to do that, and therefore undesireable. Vegas would not exist if I am not right.

As a society, we need to wake up about sex, celebrate it and learn to fold it into our lives. Throwing hissy fits or going into fits of depression because the BF/GF/wife or whatever didn't come home or smells of someone else's cologne/perfume, etc. is not going to get us anywhere. Whether one has an 'open relationship,' 'don't-ask-don't-tell-Fridays,' engage in threesomes, wife swapping, key parties, or whatever else may float one's boat, the secret to happiness is to find what works for YOU and stick with it.

Oh, and get to the damned gym: stop whining because the wife got fat and dumpy. Take a look in the mirror.

:ph34r:

What he said.

Have I cheated? Once... and I really don't want to do it again. I seem to have a weak resistance to temptation.

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Well Do Foreign Countries Count?

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No, that was not one of my mistakes. I didn't cheat on them, but they cheated on me.

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No, but I did once hook up with a girl who was dating something else. Not an experience I want to repeat, but sometimes mistakes are the best teachers.

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