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Do you hold back?

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I'm not asking if you hold yourself back in terms of what you can accomplish.

Instead, either online or in person, do you hold back part of your personality or thoughts or views? In other words, do people experience the _complete_ you?

If you hold back ... why? Is your opinion not popular? Is a passion of yours "too weird"? Do you feel like an outcast ... or that you don't belong?

If you don't hold back ... have you always been this way ... or did you experience a change that made you decide to "throw caution to the wind" and let people see the complete you?

OR ... are you like me ... a mixture of the two, depending on the people and situation?

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i hold back, but in the right company it's very small.

opinions / actions, you know some places aren't meant for them. like how "political talk" is "not allowed". that's kinda bent here and there, but not alot.

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I hold back quite a lot. People seem to have lots of opinions about how people should act in certain situations. With my dads death I have people telling me to be strong and take care of buisness. Then some say to let it out and express my feelings. Most times I just keep pretty quiet about how I feel about this.

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I am the king at holding back. Well, maybe not the king, but at least a mid-pack nobleman. I've wasted years, no... decades, holding back.
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I think we all have to hold back to some degree. That is what makes our society "civil." Can you imagine a world where everyone could read everyone else's thoughts?

I would not have a job if I didn't hold back! Sitting through the same meetings, year after year, listening to the same, tired old diatribe and NOT telling the General Manager to F$#k off - now that is holding back!

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Some of my less popular opinions have faded over the years as I grow up, so I find myself holding back less now.

Some things I don't hold back - F**k George Bush.

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My friends often call me Jeckyl & Hyde because there are two sides to my personality. There's side #1 which is a very caring, loving individual who accepts everyone and wouldn't harm anything. The side of me that shows when I do things like stopping to remove a spider from the side of my car before I washed that particular body panel (So I didn't kill it) This is how I was raised.

Then there's side #2, the FUTURE_OF_GM side where I tend to be uber masculine, uber cynical and very hate filled. This is the side where I'm an asshole for the sake of being an asshole and I view the world as a pile of $h! that will eventually burn. (LOL-- You've all experienced the negativity) This side really came out during my adolescence when I went through some extremely rough times in my life.

Do I hold back? In person; I do NOW that I'm a lot happier with my life. I think I've finally struck the perfect combination of the two sides of my personality where I can express myself yet not be a raging asshole at the same time whereas used to I pretty much made things difficult just for the sake of letting people know, ESPECIALLY the people who would try to get close to me; "Hey, f*ck you, I don't need you, I don't want you and I'M NOT LIKE YOU." However, I don't hold back to the extent that I compromise who I am.

Online; well I've tried very hard to become less 'unbalanced' and the results have been positive. It no longer stresses me out to come to the forum and I feel that I have a few more friends.

Sociologists have done some very cool studies on how our personas change online when compared to talking to someone face to face. Online you can become an idealized role and you're pretty much not held accountable for your actions. That's opposed to in person where it's harder to mask your true personality and harder to get over feeling bad about your actions.

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I'm mostly lke you FOG...two sides to my personality....but whereas you have found a balance....I have not, I hold back a lot here and online in general....as well as in real life, although my buttons are very easy to push...and when pushed, I explode into a violent outburst at whomever is in my path. Violent in terms of attitude and words and the way I verbally attack. But here on C&G it's pretty easy to hold back, because we're really like a family here. This is one message board that I've never gotten sick of due to drama. Thats a main reason why I'm still here.

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What you see, is what you get! :P

Unfortunately... same here. :P

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I'm mostly lke you FOG...two sides to my personality....but whereas you have found a balance....I have not, I hold back a lot here and online in general....as well as in real life, although my buttons are very easy to push...and when pushed, I explode into a violent outburst at whomever is in my path. Violent in terms of attitude and words and the way I verbally attack. But here on C&G it's pretty easy to hold back, because we're really like a family here. This is one message board that I've never gotten sick of due to drama. Thats a main reason why I'm still here.

It's taken me a lot to get to this point; a few stints in therapy, a few stints on various meds, a degree in Psychology (Inspired a lot by my wanting to understand my own feelings and help others with those same feelings) a VERY loving and understanding core group of friends that never gave up on me (especially my GF)

Now, that's not to say people push me around because they certainly don't, it just means that I don't go looking for fights like I used to. I know the violent part of the equation all too well. The first time I experienced what they call 'blind rage' where one becomes so angry (and scared at the same time) that they literally black out and do bad things, it was my wake up call to get help. The rest is history.

P.S. Sorry for the :hijacked:

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Online; well I've tried very hard to become less 'unbalanced' and the results have been positive. It no longer stresses me out to come to the forum and I feel that I have a few more friends.

You do have some controversial opinions, but you've pretty good at being direct but intelligent and not abrasive about it.

Although I don't agree with some of your opinions, your posts don't piss me off like some on this board have in the past.

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See, I hold back, but I kinda gave a driver the finger and yelled f@#k you in front of my ultra-conservative parents because I was riding shotgun and I have Vicadin in me. LOL

My friends know the real me.. it's a shame I held back all through grade school and middle school, and even the first 3 years of highschool. In senior year, I opened my mouth and people liked what they heard.

I hold back my political views 100% of the time. People get vicious with their opinions and I just hate arguing.

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My personality is quite a diverse pallette. I will act differently depending on my company.

Sometimes, I forget to. I, unfortunately, share a trait with my mother in that I often do not know when to shut my mouth.

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Oh forget it, you should hear the way I talk...I really hold back here with language :P

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Some things that I am about or that I know about, I'd rather not share here....

That's in order not to color anyone's opinion with bias or typecast.

Those who have met me know slightly more.

But most folks aren't ready for a good lot of me until they get truly close. That's when the personality and the views come out....

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I have no lack of confidence in my ideas and opinions, but I've also always been a fairly quiet, reserved person especially when I'm around people I don't know well. Part of this is because I'm just socially awkward but I also don't like to be the focus of attention. I get more out of listening to what other people have to say than listening to myself.

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I farted.
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I generally hold back less online than I do in person, where I'm shy and reserved.

Same here, though I must say I've become a little less shy since I've come out to a few of my friends.

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I hold back. I have to. I have gotten myself into a lot of trouble for speaking my mind, people tend not to like differing opinions, or honesty - especially the brutal type. I have a cynical side I don't trust many people and even the ones I do trust I don't trust completely. I always keep my back to the wall to keep it from getting stabbed. I don't talk to many people because I don't like them, by nature people suck. I have a few friends and only a certain few know the real me. I have my work personality, my home personality, and the "real me" personality, which most people tend not to like and I could care less.

By the way, Ocn what does you farting have to do with anything? Or are you trying to hold back less, in more than one way??

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Ack, sorry, wrong thread. :ninja:
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